There is a time during the ascension when we feel abandoned and forced into isolation. We get cut off from our family, friends, break up with our partner, and don’t feel connected to our coworkers anymore.
In the process of ascension the isolation usually happens during the time of Ego Death, for many people it happens sometimes after they have been hit by the shock that brings about the Ego Death and then it feels like if that is not enough yet, they also get cut off from their support system. But this phase is just as important as any other step on the journey to enlightenment.
When is the time of a Hermit?
You have just gone through the worst experience in your life and feel like you need all the support you can get from your family and friends. But for some reason all that support will be blocked for you. Either people are too busy with their own lives or they just don’t understand what you are going through and how to help you and therefore distance themselves.
You feel like you have been abandoned by everyone. That God, Universe or whatever higher power you believe in, is punishing you. You feel hurt and sorry for yourself. But it is not punishment, it is the time of preparation. This is the time, if you stopped feeling sorry for yourself, would actually feel the need to isolate yourself from others anyway.
Some people do not even register that they are going through an Ego Death but still find themselves in the “Hermit mode” and this usually happens during the time when either life circumstances or we ourselves go through the biggest changes.
It is very noticeable for people who are triggered into ascension by their Twin Flame. Often, we lose almost all people in our life because we are unable to share our experience with our friends and family or when we share, they are unable to help us and pull away because our pain is too hard to tolerate for them, or they just don’t understand why we act as we do over some random break up.
Also, you yourself might pull away from people who keep telling you to just get over that person and move on. Nobody who has not gone through the Twin Flame separation phase understands how impossible that is to accomplish. There is not enough ice cream in the whole universe to eat yourself into oblivion and get over your Twin Flame.
Why do we need to become a Hermit?
Even if you live in a bustling city, somehow your life is directed to isolation and you feel like your home becomes a cave that keeps you away from everything and everyone. The reason is the process that has started in your energy field. You are being shed of everything that is not real.
Becoming a Hermit allows you to keep your fastly changing energy protected from all the external disturbances. You are directed to get into contact with the unchanging at the core of you – the Soul. And because the voice of the Soul is very calm and quiet, you first need to create the silence and stillness to be able to tune into it. Being isolated creates a sacred space and this sacred space is only for one – you.
Energetically we are going through an extreme change during this time. First, we shed all the layers that we no longer need – Ego, personality, identity. It is very painful when these illusions are dying – you need time to scream and cry. It is hard to release this when someone else is watching.
If there was someone else there, they would be very likely to call for an ambulance who would to their best knowledge either heavily medicate you or worse, put you in a mental institution to recuperate – also heavily medicated. Medication would suppress the process and can create very bad side effects. The natural process is disturbed and you can get stuck in that phase…. A very bad place to be stuck in.
The purging leaves our core energy very exposed to foreign energies and oftentimes we also sense it ourselves and keep away from others as much as we can.
“But I’ll tell you what hermits realize. If you go off into a far, far forest and get very quiet, you’ll come to understand that you’re connected with everything.” – Alan Watts
What is Hermit doing?
During this time of isolation we are supposed to re-group our energy and learn to balance it. In the beginning, our energy is very fragile and gets affected by others’ energy very easily. In this period higher frequency can be just as bad as lower frequency.
You do need higher frequency to help you balance, but it must not be from exhilarating emotions but form the essence of enlightenment. That is why it is good to listen to the recordings of already ascended masters, because their voice carries a stable balanced higher frequency – even if you don’t understand what they are saying.
By focusing on our own energy, you grow the strength of keeping your centeredness and build up the resistance to lower energies. You will also very likely clear all the energy channels that allow you access to universal energy. During this time you will learn a lot about yourself and get prepared to go back into the world.
Therefore, even though it can feel hard at times, one must be grateful for the opportunity of being isolated and given the space to learn about your core self. You will not be able to hear the guidance of your Soul during this time if you spend too much time in the “noise” of society.
How to help yourself?
Energetically we will have some external energy removed from our field, which makes you feel as if you are dying, but it is just the energy of Ego and emotions being removed from our field. A lot of energy of thoughts and emotions will come to the front at that time. Which also must be processed and removed from our energy field.
At the same time of this “removal”, it is good to pull your own energy back as much as possible. You might ask, but where can my energy be then? When you are a Twin Flame, you will know where it is – mostly with your other incarnation… that is the reason why we can sense that other person so well – even taste the food they eat, or experience a hangover after they have got drunk the night before.
But for most others – your energy is stuck in every moment of your past life where you had a strong emotion or created something amazing. For example, a man who builds a house with their own hands will leave a lot of their energy in there unless they are conscious enough to pull their energy back after the creation process is finished.
When you are able to pull your energy back at the time of this purging process, it will give you more strength to deal with the reorganisation of energy and helps you to keep balanced.
The reason why many people who are going through the Ego Death and try to stay present, are unable to do it – their own core energy is just too weak to keep them in presence. So, pulling your energy back is a key element in helping yourself during this period.
If it gets too much, ask for help. But ask for help from people who have walked that path themselves. Only from experience can someone help you to get through it. No book will teach someone how it feels or exactly what might help you.
Ego trying hard to get you
During this time, people who are triggered into ascension through the loss of a loved one – either death or separation – feel the desperate need to find someone new because the Mind keeps telling them that they will otherwise stay alone forever. This could not be further from the truth. It is the trick of the Ego to sway you from the right path and delay your ascension.
Some people call these people “the chosen ones” who get to be isolated for ascension. You can tell yourself that if that makes you feel better. In a way you are chosen because you have the opportunity to ascend. Once you have ascended you will see that this title is not important at all. But it might give you strength at the time you are still struggling with your Ego.
Ego/Mind can also try to get you out of the stillness by forcing you to find your mission – a divine goal in life. Do not try to look for this. Once you know who you are, the revelation about your direction in life, solutions for unsolvable issues and all other things the Ego/Mind is trying to get you to resolve, will come to you effortlessly. Allow the time for the universe to talk to you.
Ego can also play the self-pity card – why does it have to be so painful? The pain has a purpose – it trains you to be stronger, more stable, more tolerant, more flexible. During this period you will learn when to let go because holding on to something that must go, makes you suffer. After going through this, you will have no more fear because you have faced the worst you can – your own inner demons. There will be nothing more left that can throw you off balance.
Ready to be reborn
Because a huge transformation can be scary and very painful, it is better to be isolated. Most other people cannot help you at this time and might actually add to your burden because you need to put your energy into managing these relationships as well, when all your energy should be directed to your metamorphosis.
It is like a butterfly struggling out of the cocoon. It would not be strong enough to fly if it did not have to struggle – all the suffering is preparing you for something bigger.
Now that you know that it is not abandonment but isolation for rebirth, that the pain that transforms you, gives you an ability to face everything in the future, that the darkness does not last forever but as long as you need it – are you not even a little excited and more ready to walk through it?
New me, new world
Like everything, the Hermit phase also comes to an end and you will be ready to go back into the world.
First, you will notice that you don’t want to say no to every invitation you get, if you are still getting any. Some people you lost at the beginning of the journey might reach out again. You will find yourself stronger and more at ease going out again. It is time to go back into the world. But even then you have found a new side of yourself – you are never lonely, even when alone and you enjoy being alone.
I have a habit of isolating myself as much as I can whenever there are some bigger changes happening or going to happen in my life. I can feel the energy of change and at the same time the need to just be still. In this stillness my own energy field gets prepared for the change and in that silence I am able to hear the guidance for any action that I need to take to support whatever is happening.
Sometimes staying still is all you need to do. Keeping your own energy balanced might be all that is needed when something is shifting around you. It keeps you calm, it keeps your family members calm and helps everyone involved.
You are experiencing Hermit now
So, what should you do when that happens to you? First, you should notice that it is happening and stop the victim narrative in your head. How can you be a victim when you have been singled out for something great and this is the time of preparation for it?
Allow the isolation, support it by sensing how much you should socialise and say no to things that do not resonate with your energy. Believe me, people who are supposed to stay in your life will not all leave because you turned down some of their invitations or told them that you needed some time for yourself at this time.
Focus on practicing being and balancing your energy. You can help yourself to move through this period with a lot less suffering if you do that. There is no way to speed it up a lot because it is your energy that needs to shift and balance quite a bit during this time. But you can prolong the process by trying to fight it.
Conclusion
Remember, it is not a punishment, it is a quiet time of preparation. It is like when a seed is planted – in the darkness and solitude it becomes something far bigger than it was. From the potential hidden inside, a magnificent plant grows.
Even if it seems unfair and hopeless, the Hermit phase has a very important role in the whole journey to enlightenment. It is the time for allowing the transformation to happen and keeping your energy safe at this fragile time.
It gives you time to slow down, to learn how to appreciate the silence, the absence of noise that other people bring with them. In that silence you will find something invaluable – the voice of your Soul.
It gives you time to rewire your nervous system, learn how to use your brain instead of allowing it to be hijacked by the uncontrollable flow of thoughts and people’s opinions. Once you start looking at it from this point, you realise how valuable and sacred this time is.
You will be very grateful for all you learn to appreciate and notice once you step back into the world. Sooner or later this phase will be over and you will need to step back into the rushing world carrying your light and using your newly found power to give peace where there is none, hold space when everyone else is losing their heads.
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